Birthday Puja: Sincerity

Curzon Hall, Sydney (Australia)

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Puja for the 67° Birthday, Sydney (Australia), 21 March 1990.

What enthusiasm all over the world! The whole of Sydney, I think, has been drenched of all their flowers. And such nice things to say, the cards and the letters and the beautiful poems, the children are singing beautifully. Words fail to express the feelings of such jubilation and such sincere feeling of happiness.

You needed a Mother to look after you, to care for you and to be able to transform you with lot of wisdom. So every birthday I find that Sahaja Yogis are also expanding their hearts and realizing that they are no more drops but they are part and parcel of the ocean and that the ocean itself is going to strengthen them and look after them. It’s the ocean that is going to nourish them. And the same ocean is going to guide them. So the connection between a drop and an ocean has to be fully established. So the limitations of a drop have to be absolutely dissolved into the greatness of the ocean.

With care and with nice things to say we can improve the depth of the collectivity, and with sincere desire to be collective. The desire to be collective has to be very sincere.
So, this expanse of your being will start.
The first thing is needed: a sincerity to yourself.

Of course, because we are coming from a drop status, from a drop, a little limited drop, from that phase, so we get engulfed again and again into those limitations. But we must see our own vision: what you will be in future, what you want to be in future. Thus the sincerity itself to the idea that you want to be collective, itself, will break all barriers. If you are sincere to any purpose, anything, then you forget the time, you forget the labor, you forget everything, you want to achieve it, even in small things.

Now, this sincerity comes from where? There are two things which work out sincerity. Firstly, you must see for yourself what is Sahaja Yoga, what it has given you. It has given you Realization, it has given you that wider vision, it has given you collective consciousness, it has given you thoughtless awareness and doubtless awareness. It has made a new personality out of you, like an egg becoming a bird. And now you are a bird and you cannot go back to the shell again.

Once you realize what Sahaja Yoga has done for you and also realize what you have achieved in that: that is you have achieved the knowledge, knowledge of Kundalini which was a secret knowledge all these years, absolutely secret knowledge. Nobody knew about it, it was all underground. All the knowledge about Kundalini you have, very clearly, without going to any college, school, university, anywhere. Without going to any laboratories you have experimented with it, you’ve found out what is Kundalini. You have seen it with your own eyes, you’ve seen it, the rising of the Kundalini, you have given Realization to people. Already you have experienced not only the cool breeze of the Holy Ghost but you have also experienced your own powers. Also you have seen that you have really become so much different from what you were in your knowledge of understanding things.

So, if your knowledge is so much with you and that you are entitled to raise the Kundalini of others, which was not done by any great saints before, by any great Seers, Maharshis, all these great people who lived. Only very, very few people had this capacity to raise the Kundalini, all these years, that you have got it. You understand what are the chakras and you can diagnose it, even the children can do it. Which we don’t realize is something so great! At a human level we didn’t know a word about it. We never even had heard the word ‘Kundalini’! And in such a short time you have become so knowledgeable! That’s the blessing of Sahaja Yoga.

So, when you see this: that you have so much knowledge and the light of your attention, how it works. And then you see so many blessings that work out and how automatically, just without doing anything, you achieve results, you are amazed and you can’t understand how it has happened, how it has worked out. Suddenly I was there, this happened. Suddenly I was there, that happened. How? This ocean is every moment, into all details, working out things. All these happenings should open your eyes to the fact that you are no more like an ordinary human being, that you are sages now, that you are saints.

So, our attitude has to be changed. So many human beings are still animals: you can see the way they are killing, the way they are behaving – they are not even human beings. We live with them, we see them every day: they are criminals and not only that but they have very low level of a culture in them. We can easily call them as animals. Then, we have some human beings who are half animals and half human beings. Then, we have some human beings who are really human beings, who are seekers.

And this understanding of what you have achieved in Sahaja Yoga should immediately make you realize what you are. And when it all has happened to us, automatically, you should be very sincere about it, you must feel that something really you have achieved, there’s something so great, so we have to be sincere, mentally also you should feel that way. So, this is first thing you do is to mentally feel, to mentally feel that it’s so important, it is so – it is so important, it is so valuable. You become very sincere about it.

But the second part is different: where you see something, you know something and you start opening your heart about it. In the second part you have to open your heart. So, the sincerity comes from an open heart: if your heart is not open, you cannot be sincere.

Now, what does it mean that your heart is not open? Let us see. You are born again, you have got your Realization. Also it is your birthday in a way. But in the growth of your knowledge and understanding, you have not kept pace with your heart.

But what is the reason for that? What is it that keeps your heart like that? You can discover very easily that your heart rules the body, rules your brain, everything. Because if your heart stops, everything stops. But if your brain stops, heart won’t stop.

So, heart is the most important thing and it governs the whole being within you.

Now, this special instrument, which is very delicate, which circulates also, is like a stone. How will it pulsate? So, when we say ‘enlarge your heart’, it means that the stoniness of your heart has to be melted away.

But how does it become stony? We have to go to the roots of that. It becomes like a stone because the heart controls the brain. As there are seven auras on your brain, in the same way, there are seven auras on your heart. And all those auras are the ones which control the auras of the brain. Now, on the brain, as you know, there are two institutions of ego and conditionings, which starts pressing the brain too much. As a result, all these auras get pressed. So, the auras which are surrounding the heart also get pressed.

But brain can think: ‘Yes, this is very good. I know how to raise Kundalini, I know how to do this, everything I know’, part tells (?).

It doesn’t become stony that way, it can think. Anybody who is a stone-hearted fellow can think. Like Hitler. So, the brain does not get affected by the conditioning or the ego to such an extent that it becomes like a stone, it cannot think.

If it is ego too much… If it’s an ego, then a person may become stupid, but he thinks, he thinks all right. He really becomes stupid. Anybody who is an egoist, whose Agnya is catching, becomes a stupid fellow, no doubt about it. You see in his behaviour, whenever he talks, the way he is trying to do anything, he’s such a show-off and he becomes a stupid fellow. Any wise person can see that, that he is such a stupid man.

So, what we find, that mind is covered with the superego but it does not make a person with a brain which is stony. On the contrary, it makes a person a stupid person, not a stone-headed. And such a stupid man can go on talking all kinds of things. And you can immediately recognize such a stupid man, not difficult.

The other side of this is the conditionings in the mind. That’s even a worse thing, very sly. Because somebody has the conditionings, he doesn’t come out of it. He doesn’t show off, but he’s sly and his brain is covered with such ideas which are asahaj. Like somebody saw Me, in a Puja, washing My hands and giving that water; he said: ‘Why do you take the water which is washed, which is washing Mother’s hands?’ So, the other one said: ‘Mother has got such tremendous vibrations in Her hands, that when we wash them, the vibrations come in.’ Oh, he couldn’t believe it! Because the conditionings are that whenever you wash your hands, only the dirt comes out. So, they can’t think of vibrations. All such conditionings are there in the mind of people. Because of these conditionings they cannot take to heart. But what happens that they think about it in a very sly manner, tell lies, talk nonsensical things and try to convince you that they are right. They are not stupid, but they are idiotic. They talk like idiots. And that idiotic thing you accept! There’s no wisdom in it.

So, one fellow is a stupid fellow, another one is an idiot. Between the two lies the Sahaja Yogi.

So, this conditioning makes the brain pervert, but it doesn’t make it a stone. Only what makes it a stone is that if he is born with some sort of a mental derangement, that he cannot think, otherwise the brain goes on thinking. Whether with conditionings or with ego, it goes on thinking. Such a brain should not affect the heart, because heart affects the brain. But the auras which are manifested from the heart start becoming dull or disappearing.

So the auras around the heart are very sensitive and they feel: ‘No use throwing light on the brain’. They start becoming smaller and smaller and that’s how the heart becomes small. Because they have no purpose in life there, so they start becoming smaller and smaller. As a result, the heart becomes small. You call somebody as very small-hearted fellow, is a chicken-hearted fellow or we always say such a man is a ‘stone-hearted person’.

All this happens because of the conditionings and the ego of the human mind and the result is felt by the heart becoming a stone, because heart is a sensitive thing. Brain is not that sensitive.

If you put something soft in the water, it becomes hard, but if you put a stone in the water and boil it, it won’t.

So, heart being very sensitive and delicate becomes like a stone, like as you boil in the heat of the brain waves. And it becomes a very hard stone. It does not know how to say even one word which is nice. It goes on hitting people all the time, saying things which one should not have said, all the time thinking ‘What should we say to hurt another person? How should I try to really mislead another person?’ because it’s a sly attitude.

The ego part, the heart becomes again frozen with ego and then the heart thinks – not thinks, but heart cannot emit any auras to the brain.

The brain starts thinking that ‘Now, the area of heart is finished. The heart cannot control us any more.’ Then heart starts thinking that ‘I will do all the work myself.’ I mean, the head starts saying. And the heart becomes small, stony. It doesn’t act. So now, the brain takes over.

The brain takes over and then brain starts. Brain starts itself acting in a manner that we can’t understand: they behave like animals, they behave like satanic people, they become very cruel and they do not know how to really say something good to others. There’s a kind of a very false pride in them and such people go on hurting others, insulting others till they meet another one like them and then both of them collapse. That’s the only snag in the whole thing, otherwise, you would have been finished by now. But because the two persons with ego cannot be together, they neutralize each other. So thank God we are saved from them.

So these two conditionings, which actually are on the brain, these two conditions freeze the heart and also make the domain of heart as zero and then the brain starts asserting itself. That is how we do not know how to be kind to others, how to be nice, how to be helpful, how to be gentle and how to be reassuring, protecting others. All this we have inherited already. We have already got a stone heart when we come to Sahaja Yoga and we have a brain either full of ego or superego.

So now, with your Kundalini rising, you can clear out your head, first of all. So, the sincerity will come when the Kundalini will move and touch your Brahmarandra, which is the seat of your heart and will expand.

Then the heart just comes back like a king, returns back and starts dominating the brain. And when the heart comes back, you immediately find those people with whom we were angry, we would not talk, we had nothing to do, suddenly, we become friendly with them. There’s no problem. In many ways, people have harmed you. All that harming and everything just disappears. And you start becoming so nice and beautiful.

What has happened that Kundalini has touched your Brahmarandra, where is the seat of heart. And as soon as that opens out, your heart also opens and it gets awakened. It thinks ‘Oh, what? I have allowed this brain to rule me? How dare it rules me!’ It just jumps on it. And we have seen people: suddenly, they’re so much transformed that it’s remarkable.

There – one gentleman in America, he said that ‘Mother, after Realization I was so much changed that I’ve become a very mild person and I never used to wish my uncle or anyone.’ So he met him in some sort of a fete and then he said, ‘Hello, uncle!’ The uncle started looking at him. ‘Are you all right?’ He would never say that. Then he went and saw: ‘Are you all right, uncle? Are you keeping all right? Can I do something for you?’ Very nice things he said. Uncle said, ‘What have you been doing? Are you drunk or what? How can you speak so sweetly to me? I can’t believe it.’

That’s what happens. And that’s why we have to understand that all these things can be easily dropped out because we have acquired them. They can be finished off because we have acquired them. They need not be all our lives, our relations. So, ego and superego, both can be blasted off once your heart is awakened.

So, when we are dealing with people, we have to break the ice also by communicating with others in a very decent manner. Like telling yourself, ‘No, I don’t believe that this man is so bad. Let me look after him, he may be all right. You see, I don’t think he’s so bad.’

So, to accept somebody as bad is very easy for human beings and once they start accepting such a thing, then they build up a kind of a fortress in which they live and they think they are the best people and nobody else are good. And thus, the whole community, the whole society, the whole humanity gets bitten by these ideas. And Sahaja Yoga is the only way which is going to cure it. Sahaja Yoga is the only way which is going to finish this. And that part is to be played by you people, to understand that sincerity can only come if you raise your Kundalini again and again and open your Brahmarandra. Then your heart will rise. It will become a very awakened personality and it will take charge of your brain, which is all the time thinking, thinking, thinking, like mad. And once that happens, then you will realize that now you have jumped into doubtless awareness.

So, the relationship between the two has to be fully understood. At first, the domination of the heart or, we can say, the kinghood of heart is challenged, is put down, brought to zero. And then this brain becomes the king, and it starts ruling us. ‘I think…’, ‘I feel…’ means the brain, the ego. If you could give up ‘I think…’, ‘I want…’, everything will be all right. You should say, ‘“I want…” is not the point. This body wants it.’ You separate yourself.

Gradually you start separating yourself from all such situations by never saying ‘I want…’ You should say, ‘This body…’, ‘This hand…’, ‘This head…’ You start separating. And once you have separated, all these barriers of ego and superego will disappear.

But, as it is, also it’s very easy to get rid of these two. It’s very easy to get rid of these two. Only by raising your Kundalini and breaking your Brahmarandra. This is the greatest achievement that you have got, that you can break your Brahmarandra, make your Kundalini get connected with the All-pervading Power.

That’s why I always say you must meditate and you must be in thoughtless awareness, then it works out. Don’t pay attention to outside things so much. Of course, you are, in a way, responsible for Sahaja Yoga, because you are sincere about it. You cannot force yourself. So, again and again I say, you weigh your sincerity. ‘How sincere am I to Sahaja Yoga?’

And some people just take it frivolously, saying ‘Mother, I was silly, I was confused.’ You cannot say that! You cannot say, because you owe these things to Sahaja Yoga. Everything you owe to Sahaja Yoga now. It’s a new life to you. So you cannot say ‘I was confused’ or ‘I was silly, I was stupid, I did this.’ You tell yourself you can’t do it. Mother has really worked very hard with full sincerity and we cannot be insincere about it. We don’t want to be hypocrites. This is hypocrisy, absolute hypocrisy. You say something and do something. If you have any sense of gratitude and self-respect, then you should never say that ‘By mistake, I did this, Mother’ or ‘I was confused, I was silly, I was stupid.’ That shows you are a very mediocre person and you have no sense of gratitude towards Sahaja Yoga nor towards yourself.

But the best part of it, that I don’t need Sahaja Yog and that Sahaja Yoga does not need you. You need Sahaja Yoga. In itself, Sahaja Yoga is complete. It does not need you. It is a complete thing, will remain like that, absolutely.

It will have its own position, its own status, its own dignity, everything intact. But if you have to get something out of it, you have to work it out.

Like from the river Ganges, if you have to fetch the water, you must have proper pitchers which are deep enough to receive the water. But if you take a stone, what can you bring out of it? But the Ganges flows. It is what it is. It has its own capacities in it. It doesn’t change because you people have taken stones.

So now you have to understand that raise your Kundalini as many times as you can.

Try to put attention to your Kundalini all the time. See where is the problem is. Get it cleared out, absolutely cleared out.

Find out where is the problem is and raise your Kundalini many a times and see that you are flowing all right on your fontanel bone area, so that your heart expands.

It’s a mechanical process in a way, you can say. But even that you people don’t do. If you had done that, your heart would have increased.

And you yourself will say, ‘Mother, my heart has become large like Asia.’ And then you see the miracle of the heart, how it emits vibrations by which you become such compassionate, such dynamic, beautiful people and so sincere to Sahaja Yoga.

I would request you to open your heart today for this puja. You have been very jubilant and happy. And must be your heart must have opened because I’ve seen Sahaja Yogis have a very large heart for Me, but for themselves they don’t have. They’ll do everything for Me, but nothing for themselves. They’ll work morning till evening to decorate the hall, to do everything. They must have sent all these flowers to Me from I don’t know where. But if I tell them ‘You meditate for yourself’, that they will not do. Or ‘You achieve this for yourself’, that they will not do. This is the situation.

So, instead of wasting all your energy for decorating all these things, you should decorate yourself within yourself. With sincerity, with nice thoughts about yourself that you are capable, absolutely capable people and you can use your imagination, your intelligence, rationality, whatever you think you have, to find the way, to find the way, again I say, to keep your heart large.

And this is the message for today’s birthday all over the world because I felt that the whole world was today like a big heart pulsating. I received the last phone and came here. From all over the phones coming, flowers are showering, the beautiful nice things they are saying. Everything is there. When I am just drenched into it, just drenched, it was too much for Me. Such sweet, sweet things for the children, from the children, such things from the ladies, some very, very nice from the men and it was amazing how these people are bubbling with enjoyment that today is My birthday.

In the same way, please consider that every day is your birthday, that you have to raise your Kundalini all the time and keep the standard of your Kundalini higher and higher. The more you open out, the more threads of Kundalini will come up and the more your heart will open out and it will be awakened, it will become more powerful. And with an open, big heart and a powerful heart, you can dominate your brain, which is giving you all these funny ideas.

I hope this will happen this year here and people will try to make it a point that we have a large heart. Large heart doesn’t mean stupidity, doesn’t mean that. Large heart means the heart in which you can put Me in. It’s quite a big person, Myself, so you have to have a very large heart that I could reside into your heart. That is the large heart and that’s what you all should have. If that happens, then everything will work out very well.

So, the surrendering part of it: you must know how to surrender and you must know how to keep whatever is not surrendered, because you surrender yourself in such a manner that you expand your heart absolutely. Put Me down there and then keep your flowers with you to be given to Me at a time when you are in complete control of yourself. So you have your emotions, your feelings like flowers, that you have to keep to yourself, which are the part of the same ocean of your heart. And, once you are ready, everything is done, if the whole house is ready, now bring the flowers, the emotions, the nice things, the beautiful things and nourish them. One must learn, I think, there should be some books about how to say nice things to others. We should try to find some books like that or should write some books how nice things could be said, how we can take care of others, how we can make another feel our love, the expression of love, and that work, such a book will really help people to understand that this is nice to say.

And once you say something nice to other, that niceness comes back, as I have told you, like the ripples that touch the shores come back and then you feel very happy.

Go on saying things which are nice, which are pleasing, will be very much appreciated. But if you say it with sincerity, not just to tease someone or to say something, just to be so superficially good, like ‘Thank you, thank you, thank you,’ but something from your heart, as they say, then you will be surprised that the heart of the another person will open and from that heart will flow those beautiful flowers of emotions towards you.

So, on one side, you have to expand your heart and on another side, you have to reserve or preserve all the beautiful, nice, delicate feelings within yourself, absorbed from everywhere and then to pour them out at the right point. That’s the art. Like these flowers were in the garden first to begin with, preserved, preserved. At the right time they were brought in. So they feel more glorified that they are used at the right time. This is the way we have to be with ourselves in our heart because human beings are very delicate, very beautiful things and to beautify them you have to say beautiful things. This tongue is not for saying harsh things, for making fun of others, for teasing others, but is for saying something, such a beautiful thing that the another person also imbibes that beauty.

I’ve seen some nice things people have said and that lingers in My mind. And I said, ‘When will I have chance to say these things to others?’ So, think about it, that ‘Now this is a very nice sentence,” ‘This was a very sweet thing they said. All right. So now, where should I use this?’ As I go to the shops, I see something: ‘Ah, that’s good. That will be good for particular person. Let’s buy that.’

In the same way, if you find these nice feelings and nice emotions and nice things said, then what do you do? You collect them, all these things, keep them and use them at the right time, at the right place. This is what is the wisdom of Shri Ganesha. Innocent people are the most sincere people, innocent people. Those who are clever and cunning cannot be sincere because they enjoy their cunningness, they enjoy their so-called ‘brilliance”. They can never be. Those people who are simple, who are loving, who care for love more than anything else, can only say very nice things sincerely.

Today I wanted to say many things to you, how I feel about this birthday in Australia, but I told you the words fail. Because – see, Australia is such a far-off country. To come here with so many people sitting and singing ‘Agata Swagata’. It is unbelievable, unbelievable, because I have not given you any money, you have not given Me any money, you are not bound to say anything like that. But not only that you are doing it, but you are enjoying it. It’s something great. You’re enjoying it and that’s what it is: that when your heart is large, then whatever you do for others, you enjoy. You enjoy doing good things. You enjoy saying nice things. So we should have choicest flowers of beautiful sayings, we should have choicest emotions which we should be able to express to each other.

Now start on that from today, I have to say: you start on this, that from 1990 we are all the time going to speak something beautiful to each other all the time and just keep your ears open, keep your eyes open and wherever you get a chance, wherever you hear something like that, keep it in your mind and use it back.

Today I am so enamored and it is too much for Me, really, to believe even that there are so many Sahaja Yogis in Australia, which is so far away. Now it is your responsibility. It is your responsibility to be sincere about Sahaja Yoga, and in all sincerity, if you do everything, you’ll never think of such funny arguments which I’ve heard before. You’ll just think that ‘We love Mother and we have together, to be together, and we have to love each other and all the time we have to say nice things to each other so that the love increases.’ Anything else, anybody who tries to say things or break things or breaks somebody’s heart are doing sinful things. There’s sin. To break the heart of a saint is the greatest sin and they’ll be punished for that.

So, now you are all saints and sages, you have to respect each other. Not only that, but you have to be enjoying your sincerity. That’s the way, I’m trying to say, enjoy your sincerity. And all these stupid thoughts come into your head, throw them away. Because I heard of so many arguments here and there and I thought ‘What is this? They are Sahaja Yogis or they are ordinary people of the street?’ This is happening and then the children, this happening, that.

Now, about children also, I’ve been telling you that: send your children to India. In any case, you have been selfish about them. You know they are not developing all right. So send them to India. In that you have opened your heart because the whole world is your relation, the whole world is your family. You go anywhere in the whole world, you will find people who’ll love you, who’ll care for you, who’ll do everything for you. I mean, to know that in every place there is somebody sitting just waiting to meet you as your own! Just now I was thinking, ‘These musicians are going to Singapore. What will happen? Where will they stay?’ Big problem, trying this and that. Suddenly, I gave a bandhan, phone came from Bala. Bala told Me that ‘No, it’s perfectly all right. I’ll tell my mother. She’ll look after them.’

Problem solved. So, any such problems, your problems can be solved because you are sincere, but if you’re insincere, you’ll meet only insincere people and then you’ll go down, go down into your own estimation and estimation of others. And you’ll have no place in Sahaja Yoga. There’s no place for insincere people in Sahaj Yoga, so try to develop your sincerity. Raise your Kundalini as many times as you can. Keep it there. Keep it on Sahasrara and see that your heart opens. That’s the best way.

They’ve been all asking Me ‘How to open our heart?’ I said, ‘Take the key.’ Now, I don’t know how to tell them. ‘Open your heart’ means just raise your Kundalini, keep to the Brahmarandra and see that the Brahmarandra opens. Not only that, but you see how by expanding your heart, by being nice to others, how you feel. There are some people who do not talk much, who do not meet others, who have reservations. They live as if they are living in the air, sort of people, must know there must be some badhas, some bhoots sitting on their heads, otherwise that’s a very unnatural behavior for a Sahaja Yogi.

I’ve told you so many things today because I think the care, the love, the affection, the wisdom and the patience is to be imbibed. If I’m your Guru, if I am your Mother, you have to imbibe these qualities. For everything I’m worried. If somebody’s in trouble, I’m worried. I’ll try to get the problems sorted out of that person. Anyone who has a problem, I just – that sticks to Me till I have solved the problem. And I tell frankly also about, say, your children, I tell about your wife, about your husband that ‘This is not all right. This must be corrected’. Because I care for you. This is what should be your attitude towards Sahaja Yogis, Sahaja Yoga and that will strengthen you so much, because you care, that’s why others care.

Can you imagine for an Indian woman like Me to have so many people who care for Me? Why should they care for Me, after all? All right, you are Sahaja Yogis, but there are people who are not Sahaja Yogis, I tell you, whom I, they are not Sahaja Yogis, whom I have met from My childhood, whom I know, my relations, – they all care for Me! Just one thing, because I care for them, I get bothered about them. Anybody who tells Me a problem, it is in My head, sticks there like a stamp. Till I’ve solved the problem, I’ll be looking out how to fix that problem. And I don’t have any problem of My own. In the same way, you should not have any problems of your own. Then only you can manage.

All right now? So may God bless you!

Next year I hope you all will be there for My birthday in India. We are going to organize the tour program like that, perhaps may be worked out. We have to also see if you can make something cheaper there to come down. We have to see many things. We can work it out.

Before puja if you could give yourself bandhan nicely, seven times and then rise you Kundalini that would be better.

H.H. Shri Mataji Nirmala Devi