Talk and Marriages Campus, Cabella Ligure (Italy)

Talk to Brides I’m very happy to see you all in such a beautiful dresses, and also in a good mood to get married. You must keep up your attitude – all right? You should be happy people, and try to keep your husbands also happy. Your happiness can create happiness for the children. Now one thing I want to warn you: not to tell your husband about anything which was wrong in your past life. That’s not to be done, there’s no need, because you are now Sahaja Yogis. You are changed people and whatever has happened has happened, you need not talk about it or tell him anything about it, but talk of the future and the present – all right? So, be sensible! It’s your sensibility which is going to make a happy married life. If you become insensible, if there’s no wisdom, then marriages will fail. Some girls, I’ve seen, dominate their husbands too much. There is no need to dominate. If you love the husband that’s how the domination is. It’s the best way is to love your husband, look after him, do whatever is needed, because no use showing off that you are from a better society or a better culture or a better family background. It’s only you who can show that you are really a good person and your goodness will win him over. So it’s only the wife who makes or spoils the marriage. And I have to tell you very Read More …

Weddings Ganapatipule (India)

Weddings, Ganapatipule, India, 29-12-2001 Talk at 7:10 I am very happy that you all have decided, can you hear me? To get married in Sahaja Yoga, it looks very simple, to decide like that, but you must know it’s a very big responsibility because ours is a global movement and the girls who are married are from different cultures. They come from different cultures, with different education, with different backgrounds and you are also from different countries and different backgrounds. Now the understanding should be that now you all have become global and you follow one religion that is Vishwa Nirmala Dharma and you have no other problems as they have in other religions, marrying inter-religion, inter-national. We have no problems, so we must take our marriages very much gladly and should try to make it a great success. It’s very easy to find faults with others and go on fighting and do all kinds of things, but it’s even easier to love, to love someone, enjoy someone and be in the company of someone. That’s much easier and that’s what you can do in Sahaja Yoga. In Sahaja Yoga you’ll have no problems in adjusting because you’ll find there are many other couples who are already married and have achieved great success. That’s how our Sahaja Yoga is spread all over. We don’t believe in all the artificial restrictions. We are absolutely open, free and we should love each other, understand each other, show your love to each other, Read More …

Marriages the day after Shri Ganesha Puja Campus, Cabella Ligure (Italy)

Marriages. Cabella (Italy), 23 September 2001. Talk to brides You are going to marry. I am going to just .. (the microphone is adjusted) .. and with full understanding. It’s very important to understand your role in Sahaja Yoga as married women. We have had very funny types of women who got married because they wanted to marry, and they saw to it that the marriage is not successful. And they have been of such a trouble to Me that I don’t understand that before marriage why don’t they see that what they have to do. You have to make a successful marriage in Sahaja Yoga. It’s not an ordinary marriage. And for that, it’s not sacrifice, but joyful understanding. You may have to withstand many troubles also. Financially maybe somebody’s not so well off. Maybe, though he’s all right, he’s not looking after you financially, he’s not giving you money or maybe he’s very dominating – it’s possible. Everything is possible. As you could be the same. So in Sahaja Yoga we have selected you to be married and we think that you will make a very, very happy marriage. Now it is more the responsibility of the woman somehow, because marriage is her responsibility and she has to make a happy marriage. If any of you now don’t want to marry a particular person, you can say no. But now if you are marrying, then please think of the way a Sahaja Yogini who is getting married. The Read More …

Weddings Ganapatipule (India)

Weddings, Ganapatipule, India, 26-12-2000 [Talk to brides] I want to congratulate you all for getting married in the Sahaja system. We are here to establish a new culture of our married life. It’s not the old style that we had or the new style that we were going to have. Actually marriages should be made very much comfortable, beautiful and enjoyable. If that cannot be done, it’s better not to marry. You don’t want to marry to make yourself less level and make others less level. So the first thing one has to remember that these girls that they are marrying are coming from another family, from another country, from another standards. So try to understand them. One thing I have seen, if you have love for your wife, then you can solve all the problems. What a wife wants is a love, attention from the husband. If you could do that, then you are very well off to begin with. You can also find out what does she like, what she doesn’t like. It is the oneness of character that will help. But that is only possible by understanding each other, not by forcing your culture or her culture on her, but by observing what is Sahaja culture. As a husband, of course, you have a higher position in the married life because you are the earning member and you are the one who has to look after the family as far as financial side is concerned. But the Read More …

Marriages and Talk To Bridegrooms Palazzo Doria, Cabella Ligure (Italy)

Marriages, Talk To Bridegrooms Palazzo Doria, Cabella Ligure (Italy), September 17th, 2000 I didn’t give any lecture to the girls. I think it is more the responsibility of the men to make their marriages successful. Men have to understand that marriage is a very important part of your life. And your time and respect should be given for that. The way you care for your wife from the very beginning helps you a lot. You try and understand what she wants, what are her demands, anything – try to see that you show her your interest in her. From the very first day, be careful not to neglect her and to misunderstand her. She comes from another country, so she has her own upbringing, her own ideas – try to understand and respect them. Marriage is all joy, but you must take it up very seriously. It’s not just a joke. Specially in Sahaja Yoga, one should understand that marriage is a very important thing, by which you have a couple which are sanctified. And they carry the responsibility of making the Sahaja Yoga very successful. Sahaja Yoga is a great thing, because it can transform the whole world into a very beautiful place. And you are responsible for that. As men, you should understand your responsibility as a great person, who is the, sort of a head of the family. I – yesterday I told you that I don’t believe in divorce, but I expect you to be very Read More …

Weddings Canajoharie (United States)

Marriages, Canajoharie, United States, 03-07-2000 Talk to Bridegrooms: (13:46) After you have [UNCLEAR – each] listened to my lecture yesterday, you have to now understand one thing that the basic problem in this country is that the women are not respected as [UNCLEAR]. They are respected as career women or running some sort of a show or maybe working in offices – anything. Such women are respected. As a result of that, it’s a basic problem that the children are neglected. They are not groomed properly. They don’t know what is their worth, [UNCLEAR] their value, and they take to all kinds of bad things like drugs or bad gurus, then drinking. They take to all kinds of bad things. And for this I think the father is responsible because he does not respect his wife, he does not understand her value, and he doesn’t look after her. Now the solution in this country, what they have done, they have made a law that if a husband tortures or is not very happy and doesn’t respect and all that, then they can have a divorce. And this law also goes against the women in a way because they forget their responsibility as mothers. Because it’s money they are looking for, [UNCLEAR] and they think it’s better to divorce the husband and get the money. And children are not only neglected but also tortured and murdered as a result. So now for you, it is a great responsibility as Sahaja Yogis first Read More …

Weddings and Talk to Brides and to Grooms New Delhi (India)

Marriages at Birthday Puja: “Talks to Brides and to Grooms”.  Delhi (India), 23 March 2000. I am very happy to see you all here, and you should know you are going for a little different life, that you are getting married in Sahaja Yoga. There’s a difference between the other marriages and Sahaja Yoga marriage in which we understand that marriage has to be a special, as they call yagnya, means a special type of a holy alliance in which you have to lead a very Sahaj life with your wife and to understand her. She is also Sahaja Yogini. So you must respect her and you must love her, and she should really understand that you are her caring, loving, gentle husband. You must show all concern about her because she is a Sahaja Yogini. She is not an ordinary woman, and with that respect I am sure you’ll be able to lead a very beautiful Sahaj married life. As it is, in Sahaja Yoga, as you know we don’t criticize each other. We see the good points of another person and we have a great capacity to forgive. So to forgive is not to tolerate or to suffer, but you forgive just because you are very noble, you are a Sahaja Yogi. So don’t try to find faults with your wife all the time. Also you shouldn’t give her all the time orders – this, do this, do that – but join hands with her. Because in Sahaja Read More …

Haldi, Weddings and Talk to Brides Ganapatipule (India)

Talk to Brides, Ganapatipule (India), December 26th, 1999 [Starts at 5:21]On one [inaudible] is that, if you have accepted this marriage, you’ll have to make it a very successful and beautiful marriage. And as I told you that women are for the preservation, preservation of family, of their country, and preservation of all of the value system of Sahaja Yoga. For that, you should be prepared. You may have to be [inaudible] sometimes hurt, sometimes people might try to say things to you which you may not like, but you have to be very wise about it. Only the wisdom can help you that you are responsible for building up a good married life. And once you know that, you’ll understand the importance of your being married in Sahaja Yoga. It’s not like any other marriage. It is not just a convenience or it’s not just matching for you. It’s much deeper than that. And if you have that feeling within you, that you have to have a very loving relationship. If you love somebody, you won’t grouch anything, you won’t demand anything, you won’t react for it.You have to have love, you must excuse and forgive, if something is done wrong. After all, men are not that practical as women are, you know that. But you are their support. You are their help. And you have to look at it from a very different angle that you have to build up this married life yourself. Sahaja Yogis are men Read More …

Marriages and Talk After Marriages: Mahalakshmi Principle Campus, Cabella Ligure (Italy)

[Shri Mataji speaks at the end of the marriage ceremony] Shri Mataji: You hear? Yogi: Yes. Shri Mataji: It was such a joyous and a beautiful occasion that we all enjoyed it thoroughly and all the brides and bridegrooms look so very happy. It gives Me great pleasure and I bless you from My heart. Only I would say that after marriage try to make a loving successful marriage. It is very important. For example, we saw from one country there were six to seven girls who misbehaved and took a divorce. Because of this kind of a thing we have banned that country practically because we think there’s something wrong with these ladies that they have broken one after another so many marriages. So must be their empty ego or may be something like that. It has been our experience. Also there are some other countries also. From there are – we find some very bad instances of very good marriages we have had. So what I said that if you don’t want to marry don’t marry. But in Sahaja Yoga it is not for yourself or for your wife you are marrying but you are marrying for Sahaja Yoga. So when you fight, quarrel or do all nonsense you are only harming the name of Sahaja Yoga. So you have to enjoy each other’s love, each other’s feelings, and the joy of a married life. I have seen some people are so stupid that they don’t know what Read More …

Weddings Shri Krishna Puja Weekend Campus, Cabella Ligure (Italy)

Krishna marriages – Men Talk- 1997-08-23 [1:20:35] Shri Mataji: Come in, come in. Just come forward a few [UCNLEAR].  Just come forward.  How many of you understand Spanish? So somebody can translate in Italian? Is it all right? Hello, come here. Come, come the other side. Come along. How many understand English? I’ve asked not many so they understand also Italian. And English? All of you? Practically if you translate, all right. First of all of My blessings and love. You have yesterday heard my lecture of Sahaja Dharma. You are no more a Christian, no more a Muslim, no more a Hindu. But you are Sahaj so Sahaj Dharma is the religion of pure love. So as you are getting married now you have the greatest chance to show your Sahaj Dharma to your wife.  So first of all approaching your wife who maybe are from a different country so have to be gentle and to be kind and sweet. You should not be hypocrites. So don’t talk of your past, anything! And if they start telling you say I don’t want to hear any of your past, finished, it’s over. First of all you should introspect and don’t judge your wife suddenly. So you have to make a very good beginning even in the beginning if you are behaving like a stupid fellow you have lost 50% chance. [1:25:06] Be laughing, enjoying, don’t be very serious. Now after the marriage you have to know you are Sahaj Dharmies. Read More …

Haldi, Weddings and Talk on Marriage Vows Ganapatipule (India)

Talk on Marriage Vows at start of weddings, Ganapatipule, India, 29 December 1996 There is a divorce possible, both for the husband, also for wife. But that’s very very rare, extremely rare, so far I have seen is very rare. So one should marry with a very open heart because you are marrying in Sahaja Yoga. Is no other binding force for you but your love and affection and care for each other. Now as you have got a bride and you have got a husband I will tell you one thing that Sahaja Yoga will grow much more now because of you being there as couples who follow Sahaja Yoga, and who will have children of very great spiritual character. There are many saints who want to be born on this Earth. All these saints will be born to you because you are Sahaja Yogis and you are at a level of that great consciousness which we call as Atma Sakshatkar (Self-realisation). Or they call it (Bali?) in their language, (Bali?) or (?) all these words are there depending on the quality. So, with this idea you are doing a great work, great thing to allow these great souls to come on this Earth, but your life also should be absolutely clean, Nirmala. Try to be very kind to each other and nice to each other, is very easy in Sahaja Yoga, because as you know that everything that you think, everything that you do is all Sahaja. So Read More …

Talk to the Brides, The Responsibility of the Women Ganapatipule (India)

Talk to the Brides, The Responsibility of the Women, Ganapatipule (India), December, 28, 1995 You are all ready to get married and I bless you from My heart. Now, the duty of a wife I need not tell you, you know it very well. I’ve told you many-a-times that she is responsible to build the society of Sahaj. And as a result, she has [a] very great responsibility. She has to look after the whole family, the relations of [the] husband, and should go up to the great expectations of the family members also. This can be done if you have really love for people. If you have love, you will have tolerance and you’ll be able to bring more people in Sahaja Yoga who are related to you and to your husband by showing a very good household that you have created. Towards the husband you have to be very dedicated and don’t tell him about your past. Past is finished and start afresh. It’s a very dangerous thing to say anything about your past to your husband. So, you have your expectations, so he too has his own expectations about you. Expectations should not be there in Sahaja Yoga. But gradually, if you understand the value of your marriage and you respect it, then you will not go after superficial things. You’ll not ask him to buy this, buy that for you on a material level. But also on the mental level you should not try to judge Read More …

Haldi and Weddings Ganapatipule (India)

Talk to bridegrooms and marriages, Ganapatipule (India), December 29th, 1994 [Before weddings talk; starts at 10:14] You have decided once for all. After getting married, I hope none of you will turn back. Because it creates a very bad feeling and I mean, it has become something like what is happening with other people who are not Sahaja Yogis. It’s a responsibility. I know that sometimes you start thinking. Normally, they say that, “It was such an atmosphere that Mother, we accepted and we married”. And after that, I don’t know what goes wrong. So, this marriage is not a mental marriage you must know, it’s beyond mental. If you start thinking now of one thing, then after marriage you’ll start thinking of something else. So, all those, even now, you have to decide. Because I have decided now, I’m so fed up with this kind of thing, those who do such a thing for no rhyme and reason – actually this, I don’t know why I’m doing it. Such an explanation, if you give, then you’ll have to go out of Sahaja Yoga permanently. But we can’t afford to have these kinds of things going on. Especially girls feel very hurt and are shocked. If something wrong with them, if they are aggressive or they try to get out of Sahaja Yoga or teach you something else, then I can understand. But otherwise, you should not at all, on your own, just for no rhyme and reason, give up Read More …

Marriages (poor audio) Istanbul (Turkey)

Marriages and Talk after Russian Award. Istanbul, Turkey. 6 November 1994. [Main audio] Today, people have come here to attend the weddings of their brothers and sisters [unsure].It’s important to understand that marriage is a very important thing in Sahaja Yoga because the principle established in [inaudible] and our society is [inaudible] so it’s very good to have it. That’s why [inaudible] and that you should make good marriages. But sometimes, people are very cunning [unsure] and they don’t understand what the marriage is. They try to find fault with the partner. And within two, three months they are going out of the marriage. In the sense that they want to have their second chance, third chance, fourth chance, [unsure].Then I think that my attention has been used for nothing [inaudible]. If they don’t like their first choice, they should have their own. Why to bother us? They should not [inaudible]. Very surprising those things that have been going on. One of them is, they are all right for two, three months and suddenly Gods knows what [inaudible] that they get divorced on a small issue.They don’t understand how important is for them to have a good marriage. They can’t go after three, four months. I don’t know what happens to them. And they even harm the women [inaudible] and still they don’t understand how sinful it was. In their own land country, they are doing like that. They’ll be punished, not only punished but they’ll have to bear a Read More …

Weddings and Advice to Brides and Grooms Ganapatipule (India)

Advice to Brides and Bridegrooms in Ganapatipule (India). 28 December 1993. Advice to Bridegrooms This time we have the maximum number of people who are getting married. Still I don’t know the final number. At the last moment some people come to me that I should tie their dhotis. Different thing in Sahaja Yoga doesn’t matter. Whatever it is, There is one thing I would first again ask. Those who don’t want to get married with the people whom we have selected and you accepted should immediately tell me today. Now there’s still time. If you have any doubts, any one. The purpose of these marriages is this, that we should have international understanding about human beings that after coming to Sahaja Yoga we transcend all the barriers, all the barriers of race, religion, ?? and nationality. We have to create this homogenous world and make it peaceful by removing this disease of national identification or racial identification. We are all created by God Almighty. Our differences are only skin deep. Culturally we are different little bit here and there but basically in ourselves we are all spiritual. And the religion that you have is innate built in within us which is an part and parcel of us. By these marriages we want to achieve a very happy and a very enjoyable married life. In the marriage one has to know, nobody should dominate anyone… that’s a wrong idea. But we have two wheels of the chariot, one is big Read More …

Weddings Moscow (Russia)

Weddings in Moscow (Russia). 14 November 1993. [Applause] Thank you very much. [Applause] I don’t know how to thank you, Sir, for saying such beautiful things. [Applause] We have some scientists with us but they were never very sure that scientists will ever think of Sahaja Yoga. One scientist started writing a book for the science with the quantum theory and everything. So he said without transformation the scientist will not understand Sahaja Yoga. Just on a mundane level as human beings they cannot crossover, to crossover the mind. After meeting him now I feel so confident. A gentleman of his caliber, if he can understand Sahaja Yoga and also understands the necessity of transformation, I think My job is done now. Because scientists are like Gods in every country. Especially in developing countries, they are regarded as the last word. But the way he has understood Sahaja Yoga and the necessity to have Sahaja Yoga for the betterment of the world is so remarkable, so joy giving. I have no words, you see, to tell you how I feel now. Of course, we have very highly placed people who have accepted Sahaja Yoga. But no scientists of this caliber, and this will really give us such a help that I cannot explain. Especially people think that those who are not scientists are scatterbrains. And in India some people said that this is all blind faith. There’s nothing like Kundalini, there’s nothing like transformation. And, they threw stones at us Read More …

The Weddings Ganapatipule (India)

1990-01-10 Weddings Ceremony, Ganapatipule, India Shri Mataji: Now those who are standing on this line, should, first of all, see that your number is all right. Please put your number all right. And stand facing this side, not facing me but this side …Do it fast …Arriving …Now try to remember that there will be a piece of cloth and you have to walk very very slowly …There are 7 stanzas that will be sung. And in the last stanza, that will be sung then you have to garland your fiance’s …When the cloth goes down then you have to garland and you have to put down your head, you have to put down your head when you are walking thinking that you are taking these few steps for your auspicious marriage. So you have to meditate on that point. And move very very slowly! Now you have to walk a very little distance if you see that …Now they will be giving you garlands. Face this side. Now see that you stand in the line first of all…And you have to move in the line also…Hold it in both the hands put your head down as much as you can …There is going to be the exchange of Garlands. You don’t have to wear a Garlands, please! And the shining one should be behind and the flower one should be in front…So when you put it shining one comes up… Will you please do that, and stand by the Read More …

Haldi and Weddings Ganapatipule (India)

1987-01-04 The Weddings Ganapatipule India 18:30 [ENGLISH ONLY] All right, all right.  Now being 70 marriages, you all have to be very cooperative and you have to be very adjusting with each other that you understand. I would suggest that first of all the parents of the girl, who so ever they are. [Shri Mataji switches language] To tell that you have to just do the Aarti of the boy and put the red [UNCLEAR] on his head, slowly. No to spoil him, his dress or anything that’s all. But don’t spend too much time already, we are late because of certain things so we have to be careful of time, all right. Now, the girls have to stand in a line from the first starting at that end to this end. From one line will be there. Now when they are walking they have to walk with their heads bent downward and see that in front of you there are things so don’t trample over them, that’s all. You can be carefully walking together. There’s no need to keep them inside. As it is, let it be. Now walk carefully! Now… [Indian yogis asking Shri Mataji a question] Now what is it you see, you have to stand in a line after doing the Gauri thing, worship. That’s only one second job, you have to come and put the flowers at My feet, finish. And then you go and stand in [your] number. From first starting from there up Read More …

Marriages Kew Ashram, Melbourne (Australia)

Marriages in Kew Ashram. Melbourne (Australia), 16 March 1985. Shri Mataji: … ask all of them to stand at the back so all the people have to stand at the back so the girls can stand up. And bring their garlands and you have to … one garland to the boy. [too much background noise to hear Shri Mataji] They should all stand up and move back. All of you will have to stand this side. All right. Should we ask them to get up now Warren? Have you given them numbers or something? Make them stand in that way … They are standing now better stand … way. Now, yes. We have to start. Get the garlands. This light has to be brought in here. I’ve not seen … shining before I think. May God bless you. No, no, the children have to be in front of them, with the flowers in the hand. Can you break off the petals for the children in their hand? Warren, you have to take the flower petals for them, for the children. In the hand … like this you make and give to the children. The boys have come, or not? They should come now. Warren, I think the girls better stand there because the boys will come here now. Can they come that way? Let the girls stand this side. Now you take your lights this side, I’m sorry to say. Is better. Take the lights on this side. All right. Read More …

Marriages Bordi (India)

Marriages, Bordi, India 14-02-1984 It is that you apply a mixture of turmeric and oil and all that to the body to the boy first and then is applied to the girl. They feel better on the body and on the face, they feel soothed down. Its a kind of a jubilant thing, now they are in for marriage, now painted for marriage you can say. They are not supposed to talk to anyone They have to keep to themselves and to be very very quietly settled down. This function has to be done. For the girls who are to be married, will you please get up and come round here. The girls who are to be married, all the girls Now, this thing is a turmeric, another thing mixed together. And this may spoil your sarees a little bit, so Bring one towl and were very simple clothes, you see, you may just wear a saree and a blouse, you may not have the inner clothes. You can just come down there, and someone will apply this to you, or you can sit there at one side Then you have to go for a bath, to arrange for the bath now Where are you? Just come this side Now You first go from here so we will have to apply this to the boys first. Now those boys who are going to get married, should come forward. With great courage. Now all your clothes are going to be spoilt Read More …

Marriages New Delhi (India)

Marriage Ceremony 1983-0206 Delhi India Shri Mataji: Just tell these girls to open their veils. They don’t have their friend behind?Just bring it a little less. Yogi: Mother, would you like grooms on the left or the right? Shri Mataji: put it back, no no, take it out and put it here, but keep your neck down, so that the face can be seen. Yogi: Some are sitting on the left and some are sitting on the right. Shri Mataji: All of you should be seated like this, the boy should be on the right of the lady, the bride should be on the right of the bridegroom. The boy should be, bridegroom should be on the right of the lady. That is correct, that is correct, that is correct. Yogi: All bride to be towards you? Shri Mataji: No no right side of the boy. First right side later she will sit on( vaamang) left side. This is wrong, first, she has to sit on left, all right be careful, be careful. I think better than that outside. All right, (Shri Mataji is discussing with other yogis regarding the placing of bride and bridegroom and mantras.) Yogi: Mother do you need Coconut? Shri Mataji: Coconut is not required now, later. You do one thing you announce. The parents of the girls should come forward please, parents of the girls. The parents of the bride and the bridegroom and who else with you. To keep the sense of authority from Read More …

Marriages New Delhi (India)

1982-0221, Marraiges, Delhi, India. We are happy and the whole universe is to be bubbling with joy.(audience clapping sound)Last time we had only six marriages and this time we have doubled, we have twelve marriages.(audience clapping sound,,someone from the audience said,next year 24 ) I hope you will go on with this progression.(audience laugh sound) Marriage is a very important institution for Sahaj Yogis, we don’t accept  people who do not marry or who do not believe in marriages. Also, we do not accept people who are Sanyasis.So for us marriage is a very very important institution for various reasons because with the happy married life, the peace of the world will start presiding on this earth.Then by collective being within us , by your spirit. The marriages should be blessed by all the people who are around and the marriages should be such that it should make people happy.Now the responsibility of the husband and wife is to make their marriages (34:48)very successful.What is a very simple keynote is there, that you have married for Love. You just love a person. If you start loving a person, you will know all about that person and you will enjoy that love.You cannot enjoy married life without love. Love is the only way you can enjoy married life. In this country specially, marriages are very much supported by the society and everyone wants that marriages should be successful. The reason is they know that without a good married life, the children will be ruined.They will be Read More …