Contract

Some people are negative in the sense that they are on the left hand side, and some people are negative because they are on the right hand side. Some times these combinations work very well. When a dominating man tries to dominate a left hand person, they are great friends… because one dominates and the other takes domination. As soon as the left hand person comes on the centre or tries to come to the right, the dominating one starts clashing… then they are the worst of enemies. It happens like that… so be on the alert (1980-0927)

Now a person who is on the left should try to come in the centre… and in the same way a person who is on the right side should come to the centre. Now how do you do it… a person who is on the right side should try to become friendly with the left sided person, and the left hand side person should try to be friendly with the right sided person. So what is the give and take in this. The right sided person will be a better organiser maybe… maybe not… at least will be a better orator, or may be a better sort of a leader… may not be… you can’t say… he may be the one who will suggest things and who will bring out things… who will say ‘I’ll do this sort of thing maybe’. The left hand person will be frightened, but will be humble, loving, more affectionate… he’ll be much more at the command of others. This one will be commanding and the other will be receiving the commands (1980-0927)

Now how do we solve the problem of this mixture. The one who is very much on the ego side should try to obey the person who is on the left side, and the left sided should try to command more on the right hand person… and it should be accepted… it should be mutually understood… there should be a contract… alright I am the ego oriented person, and you are the superego oriented, now let us do one thing… you try to dominate me, and I’ll try to obey you… it will work out (1980-0927)

But it is rather difficult to get a left sided person here (UK)… there are very few… some were left sided, but when it came to ego… they were worse than anybody else. But, you can have a left sided person… and let him dominate… til he develops his ego he’s alright… if he develops, then he should stop it… but with complete understanding, watching yourself… how you develop, how far you go… a play should go on. But if you are identifying with yourself that I am always right, or nobody’s right, then nothing can work out. So the best way to do this sort of thing is… ‘alright you order, and I’ll do’… ‘let you organise and we’ll do it… you tell us how to do it’. Let us decide to improve ourselves, and not to feel bad about it… we have to improve a lot (1980-0927)

Tape References

Date/Ref – Title – Qual – mins

1980-0927 Lethargy, Chelsham Road good 75

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