At the time when garlands are given, you are not supposed to garland yourself… it’s regarded as absolutely unmannerly… somebody else has to garland you. Any man cannot garland a lady… because only the husband has the right… so ‘anyone’ won’t garland. A son can garland the mother… but ‘any’ man cannot garland any lady who is of a younger age, or who is not yet married, and even if married she has to be an old woman. Even if the leaders here are garlanded, they immediately take out their garlands… except the Gods… I mean I can carry my garland, but I also take it out… is based on logic (1988-1211)

In Sahaja Yoga marriage… the condition is… as in India… that the girl has to accept her husband… if she does not accept, we cannot force marriages. That’s why the first ceremony we’ll be having is where they’ll be garlanding you… by garlanding you, they suggest that they are accepting you (1993-1224.1); First the bride… the girl… has to garland… means she accepts him… it is Indian tradition that the girl has to accept… you cannot force it on her… then if she has accepted, then the boy should garland… that means he has also accepted (1993-1228)

Tape References

Date/Ref – Title – Qual – mins

1993-1228 Talk to bridegrooms & Shri Gauri Puja, G’pule – see 1993-1224 good 10

1993-1224 Talk about Marriages, To Bridegrooms, G’pule – see 1993-1224 poor 20

1988-1211 Detachment, Rahuri – see 1988-1207 good 25 1993-1224 India Tour 93/94 – tape 3 [G’pule; G’pule]

– end – 30 May 2003